Doing the work is not about being like anyone else. Doing the work is about knowing yourself wholly. It’s about being willing and being vulnerable. It’s understanding where right and wrong and bad and good are words that are no longer serving you, so that you can finally be yourself.
So much of my capacity to learn as quickly as I do, and to grow and expand as much as I have, is all rooted in my grief.
When we become more conscious of ourselves, we can move from blame, to accountability, which leads to vulnerability, and then intimacy.
What are we communicating when we tell someone they hurt us? How about when we claim someone made us feel a certain way?
We are all constantly absorbing new information from the internet, from our peers and friends, from our teachers, and from our families. But are we doing it consciously?
We have all heard about personal responsibility, but what does it mean, exactly? How do we apply it to our lives without imposing self-blame?
Arnold Schwarzenegger is famous for saying “No Pain No Gain” and Kelly Starrett is renown for reminding us to “not go into the pain cave.” So which is it?
Our comfort zone is not a static thing. Just like us, it changes. What used to make us uncomfortable probably won't after some time spent habituating to it. In order to continue growing, we must keep reaching for the unknown.
We can all feel a little stuck sometimes. Here's a story that illustrates how to get unstuck.
Many of us have been told, at some point in our lives, that we’re looking at life through rose-colored glasses.
When someone says this, they’re really suggesting that since our lenses are rose-tinted, we’re seeing things as nicer than they really are. Rosy perspectives are painted as naive and irresponsible.
I think this is a load of crap that doesn’t help anyone.
In truth, if we’re wearing glasses at all, they’re likely clouded dark, not rosy, by the negative stories we tell ourselves...
A voyage to discover curiosity for the sake of curiosity, and not for the sake of finding answers; an exercise in learning to not rescue myself.
Maybe you can get what you’re looking for from outside yourself… But you don’t really want to.
Maybe there’s someone who loves you deeply and shows you in every moment just how much you mean to them… But you know the recognition you crave is your own.
Maybe there’s someone who wants to give you everything, who is just waiting for you to ask… But what you long for is to know, with certainty, that you can, and will, always give it to yourself.
Maybe you’ve fallen in love; found someone to laugh with, to have adventures with and stay up late with… But you retain your own form and never lose sight of who you are.
This is how it feels to know your own gravity.