Doing the work is not about being like anyone else. Doing the work is about knowing yourself wholly. It’s about being willing and being vulnerable. It’s understanding where right and wrong and bad and good are words that are no longer serving you, so that you can finally be yourself.
So much of my capacity to learn as quickly as I do, and to grow and expand as much as I have, is all rooted in my grief.
When we become more conscious of ourselves, we can move from blame, to accountability, which leads to vulnerability, and then intimacy.
What are we communicating when we tell someone they hurt us? How about when we claim someone made us feel a certain way?
We are all constantly absorbing new information from the internet, from our peers and friends, from our teachers, and from our families. But are we doing it consciously?
Arnold Schwarzenegger is famous for saying “No Pain No Gain” and Kelly Starrett is renown for reminding us to “not go into the pain cave.” So which is it?
Our comfort zone is not a static thing. Just like us, it changes. What used to make us uncomfortable probably won't after some time spent habituating to it. In order to continue growing, we must keep reaching for the unknown.
We can all feel a little stuck sometimes. Here's a story that illustrates how to get unstuck.
A voyage to discover curiosity for the sake of curiosity, and not for the sake of finding answers; an exercise in learning to not rescue myself.
I am grateful for this experience where my desire could fight its way out, where it could have a voice and an action. I am grateful for being received and enjoyed in my desire. I am grateful for food so delicious that makes you break your internal rules, grow, and start believing that this world is a beautiful, loving place that wants to see me succeed.
The things we continue to be ashamed of remain perpetually in our shadow, and will haunt us for the rest of our lives, no matter where we go.
We launched into this game. We had a four hour car ride ahead of us. Anytime anyone said the word "banana" the whole car had to say what story they were telling themselves in that very moment.